Yun Fong
1 min readSep 21, 2019

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擇偶本來就不是只有單一條件,任何一個人都不是,通常都是多種不同條件撈埋一碟加權後的結果。即是所謂package。

(就算男人睇女人都一樣,就算娶妻求淑女,都唔係對樣貌身材完全沒期望,只是不同人的比重不同。相對黎講我自己唔介意人地身材相貌平平 – 反正我自己都係,比較介意講野係咪投契。)

港女(港男亦同,其實即是「港人」)的問題是mean,有鋪老闆使死人既癮。老闆見新畢業就嫌你冇經驗,有經驗既又嫌人冇學歷,講到尾都係想壓人價。

所謂「睇樣」或者「睇身家」都係咁上下,問題唔係想搵個樣貌端莊或者財政上照顧到自己既人,而係要求提得太高。例如港女諗住做少奶奶,但家陣男女平等同工同酬,坊間邊有咁多男人人工高你幾個開?靚仔嫌冇錢,有錢既又嫌唔靚仔(喂有錢又靚仔,吳彥祖全世界得一個),做百彈齋主咁咪惹人厭惡。

如果真係明中庸之道,搞清楚自己心中比利時,搵個各方面「分數」平衡既對象,就唔係挑剔了。

當然,眼緣既野其實係基因同文化互相影響既產物,下意識接受唔到,講咩道理都冇用。

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Yun Fong
Yun Fong

Written by Yun Fong

Book Addicts, Piscean science kid, Asperger School librarian with a blog “Daily Fongyun”, author of 《吹水無邊﹕一個教師的閱讀與教學自白》, former CUSU law draftsman

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